While these things are absolutely not cool, a bully’s actions can also be more subtle and include things like teasing others because of something they say or do and how they dress, excluding another kid from playing or joining a group activity, or posting a meme or gif online in reaction to someone else’s thoughts or feelings. Kids often mistake their bullying behavior for being funny or use bullying as a way to impress others. They follow up their hurtful comments by saying, “I’m just joking” or “It’s no big deal.” But they are wrong! Whether your kids realize it or not, they are being bullies. Passive or overt, bullying is wrong and bullying hurts!
As parents, it’s important for us to notice how our children treat others and address all bullying behavior, big or small, in person or online. One way to help support your child is to explicitly teach social and emotional skills, the same way you explicitly teach academic skills. Our new vendor, Generation Mindful, has toolkits and articles to help your child, grades TK-12, build their emotional intelligence through play and positive discipline. I highly recommend you check out their resources and contact your Sage Oak teacher if you’re interested in placing an order.
For more information about bullying and bullying prevention, please check out Stompoutbullying.org, which focuses on standing up against hate, racism, and discrimination and changing the culture of bullying with inclusion, equity, civility, and unity. Their website also includes a child-friendly quiz titled Are You a Bully?
#BlueUp by wearing blue today, Monday, October 5th for World Day of Bullying Prevention. Today is also National Child Health Day bringing awareness to children’s health, family, and those that work hard to help them. For more ideas, resources, or suggestions on bullying, please join me, Allie Whalen for Coffee with the Counselor.